Good marriage

[nine_lives]

What makes a good marriage? Today is a Valentine's day, and you see flowers, chocolates and couple's kissing everywhere and think what happens? Two years later they are ready to kill each other and get divorced. Obviously it's not the romance and sexual desire that keep people together, otherwise no one would ever be divorced. What is the secret then? Anybody knows?

[Texas]

Friendship.

[nine_lives]

Why would friends want to marry?

[santa_angel]

I think that people should be interesting for each other. If a person you are married with everyday speaks only about his work or about what to prepare for a dinner, you'll soon find that there is nothing to talk to him about. It should be interesting with a person you love. And your house life shouldn't be on the first place, while your love&passion are beneath. When you come home and see that the dinner is not prepared yet, do not begin to complain. Think of how beauty is your wife/g.f. and how much time she spends on taking care of her look to attract you.

[nine_lives]

It should be interesting with a person you love. And your house life shouldn't be on the first place, while your love&passion are beneath.

How do you keep interesting and passionate?

[Irinka_ukraine_dot_com]

First of all is the physical attraction, you can not do without it, that's the very foundation.
After physical attraction, you have to have an intellectual ballance, you haveto truly like talking to each-other, laughing together as often as possible might save you later on, when and if the physical attraction wanes for a short period of time (it happens to every marriage).

Also, do as many things together as possible, take walks, join a sports team, take a language class together, this will force you to combine your efforts for homework, with could prove to be romantic
Cook together, learn how to make wine, it's a long process, but it keeps you talking and experimenting together.
Also, make sure to tell your mate that you love them, compliment them as often as possible.
Make sure to keep both of your bodies in peak physical condition, it improves your energy and stamina, and helps your libido.
Those are general things, but without them a marriage is boring and short.

[Kolya]

I think that many marriages would work a lot better, if spouses would keep in mind every day the promises they made to each other when they got married.

"In sickness and in health, in boredom and in heat, till death do us part."

Many marriages fail because spouses get annoyed over small things, and over time these little annoyances eat away at their love for each other.

Patience, kind consideration for the other, and rememberance of the promises husband and wife made to each other will make any marriage work well.

Of course, both husband and wife must remember their promises and try.

A marriage cannot work well if only one of them is trying.

Perhaps if people try to remember their marriage vows better, then they would try harder to love each other and make their marriages work well.